My guest today helped me immensely in my efforts to live more joyfully.
She helped me see past a label I’ve carried since childhood and helped me understand the distortions this single word brought into my understanding of my place in the world and how to operate within it as “a good person”.
These observations weren’t incorrect, nor were they born out of malice. Quite the opposite. They were born out of love and a desire to teach, guide and help me.
But my podcast guest today helped me see how this single word contributed to at least one of the distortions I hold about myself, and one of the ways I potentially block joy – by disconnecting from a part of myself and cutting it off as “bad”.
No Part Left Behind - Selfish to Selfless
In this episode, I talk to Tess about a concept she teaches in her coaching program and shares on her website – No part left behind.
She explains that in order to live a fulfilling, joyful life, we have to feel whole and that means unification, validation and recognition and safety offered to every part of us, rather than hiding, denying, distorting or judging parts of ourselves.
She explains how these things block us from joy, keep us stuck and rob us of our satisfaction – and how we might then cascade this dissatisfaction outwards, onto family members and other important people in our lives as those denied parts of us fight for their place to be heard and seen.
She helped me see how accepting ALL of my nature might well be the most compassionate and selfless thing I can do if I am to offer this level of acceptance to others in my life.
Tess shares her views on the difference between religion and spirituality and describes how a connection with the spiritual part of ourselves can connect us to the power we hold within ourselves to change our lives and, in so doing, make a greater contribution to the world around us.
I came away from this conversation realising that my worry (that this entire ‘joy-blog-thing’ is a load of self-indulgent nonsense) was actually a call from my disallowed “selfish” self but that my ability to continue down this road may well open up new avenues for a greater contribution to the world around me and a deeper sense of spirituality and meaning.