When you look at something almost perfect, what do you notice?
I notice the “almost” – the one flaw.
Today, my husband and I went out for a walk and whilst out, we passed a recently renovated house. It looks absolutely lovely – with the excpetion of a small strip above the top floor window, which looks unfinished and untidy.
As we passed, we talked about how annoyed we’d both feel if we’d paid to have our house renovated and been left that with that flaw.
What does this have to do with joy?
The conversation got me wondering how such thought processes serve us in relation to joy.
When I look around my life, so many elements are damn near perfect, and sometimes I miss that by focusing on the stressful moments, annoying inconveniences and “what if” worries.
Writing this blog has helped me reduce the regularity of those thoughts and taking time each day for gratitude is gradually changing how I see the world, but I think, deep down, I still really want things to meet my expectations – and I still have a lot of expectations.
I’ve written about this a few times over the course of the last 3 months but it keeps cropping up. I’m beginning to see why students of spirituality and philosophy often end up devoting their lives to finding their answers. Despite the seeming simplicity of ‘letting go’ and ‘living joyfully’, it seems we really do have to counteract our biology to achieve these things.
Although I have just 1 week left of writing this blog series (after this, I’ll be devoting my writing time each day to my book), I believe it has changed my life for the better and I’ll continue to be a student of joyful living long after I stop writing about it.